Most of us seek to surround ourselves with people who provide emotional well-being, not only by giving us their support, but by transmitting good energies when we have the opportunity to share moments at their side.
However, we are not exempt from crossing with toxic people who, far from making us feel good, can steal our energies with their thoughts and problems.
Although it is not wrong to help someone when they need it, it is essential to know if they really need us to shake hands or are trying to manipulate us.
And is that, using our good heart, many begin to victimize in order to generate pity or lighten their responsibilities.
Their behaviors make them blame others for their ills and, since they usually find someone who has compassion, they hardly manage to solve their life by their own means.
Because of this it is important to know how they behave and what kind of strategies they use to generate that feeling of always having to help them.
Discover 8 signs.
1. They believe that the world is against them
Although some still do not know, the personalities of those who become the victim are related to a paranoid disorder that leads them to distort reality pessimistically.
The individual complains constantly and, to be defensive, thinks that everyone is against him.
It is common that when speaking with them they manifest themselves in a plaintive way and assure that nobody loves them or that none of them is able to understand the situations they are going through.
2. They do not assume their responsibility
The inability to assume their responsibilities is one of the main behaviors of those who always want to become victims.
In their minds they are so convinced that others can help them that, even involuntarily, they want others to assume what is theirs.
It is very simple for them to ignore the role they play in their problems and can point out others regardless of the consequences.
In fact, they become so manipulative that, after gaining your trust, they make you feel guilty when you cannot help them.
3. They exaggerate the problems
As the saying goes, “they make a storm in a glass of water”.
The habit of feeling fragile makes them exaggerate situations that displease them or their problems.
As they always want to pity them, they cry or get angry so that their supposed aggressor feels guilty and apologizes.
4. Everything bad always happens to them
Talking with these types of people can wear us down, not only because of their negative mentality, but because their stories are always a tragedy.
They will always tell you how badly they are doing with their work, family problems and how bad the other people around them are.
They never see the opportunities that adversities can bring and their mentality is totally closed to think that everything can be better if it is done for it.
5. Never apologize
The apologies of a person who becomes the victim are usually not sincere. Moreover, they rarely recognize their mistakes and apologize to those who affect them.
Their manipulation mechanisms become so effective that they always find a way to justify themselves or to be like the “good guys” in the movie.
6. They feel sorry for themselves
Those who become accustomed to being victims to others tend to float their flaws and have a strong self-criticism.
Their habit of feeling sorry for themselves makes them look like helpless children or fragile people before society.
When they fail to generate sympathy or empathy in others, they console themselves to lock themselves more in their role as victims.
7. They see life full of deficiencies
Even when something good happens to him, the victim will find some failure to put aside his negative and toxic thinking.
No matter how many opportunities they have, their life is always full of shortcomings, since they cannot feel happy with anything.
They will complain if they have, if they do not have, if they have more or if someone can more than them. They remain in a cycle that prevents them from transcending significantly.
To not stop suffering, these people remember past events in which maybe someone or something caused some kind of injury.
They are unable to leave behind the things that caused them pain and, almost always, take advantage of any opportunity to bring them back to the present.
Do you know anyone with these behaviors? Watch out! Even if you are too close and want to help, it is important to keep in mind that many of your acts are already a difficult habit to leave.
Do not let your energy be stolen and try to stay out of trouble to avoid being manipulated.