Marissa Heckel is a mother from Ohio (United States) who after the traumatic birth of her first daughter decided to do things differently with her second baby and chose to give birth without any assistance and in the privacy of her home.
A friend of Marissa shared her photo on Facebook and her story quickly went viral, showing in an incredible image how powerful our body and our mammalian nature can be.
He knew what he wanted from the first moment
Marissa had a traumatic experience three years ago, when she gave birth to her first daughter in a hospital. She felt harassed by the medical staff and intimidated by not wanting to resort to the epidural. They guided her labor, forced her to lie on a bed and push in a position that did not favor the baby’s descent and, as a result, ended with a major tear.
Therefore, when she became pregnant with her second child, Marissa was very clear that she wanted to give birth in a totally different way, without help and relying only on her body. She was never afraid of the decision made, and even though two weeks had passed since her probable date of delivery and the baby showed no signs of wanting to be born, she was calm and confident.
“I was so excited that I could not wait to start labor, but I trusted my body and had a positive relationship with him.” He knew that despite being in week 42, he would decide when it would be the best time. “
And the moment arrived. After 36 hours of delivery, Marissa, accompanied only by her husband, gave birth to their second child. A baby over 4 kilos in weight that reconciled him with his mammalian nature and with his woman’s body.
“It has been five days since I gave birth to my son without any help, three years ago, I gave birth to my first daughter in a hospital where I felt very badly treated and harassed throughout the whole labor. that, this time I decided to stay at home and give birth to my son in privacy, I had this idea very clear since I knew I was pregnant”
“My husband was very understanding with me and has always respected my choice to be in a calm and stress-free environment, I did not want anyone to tell me what I had to do or what was best for me or my baby. help was an opportunity to show everyone that God made our bodies ready to give birth, and that hospital care does not have to be the usual norm. ”
“I gave birth to my son after 36 hours of delivery in the bathroom of my house, it was the same time it took me to give birth to my first daughter.” During the night, as the contractions intensified, I looked for relief in the shower. or in the bathtub, but I did not get it, leaning against the wall I told myself that the pain would be temporary.”
“At dawn, the contractions became much stronger and when I began to feel pressure, my husband came to my side and held my hand with love while I roared, and at that moment the bag broke and my bed filled with water”.
“When I felt the need to push I tried to stay in bed but it felt unnatural,so I told my husband I wanted to go to the bathroom to push in. I let my body do the work alone and I sat on the toilet. by me and between contraction and contraction I reassured him saying that he already felt the head of our baby descend ”
“And suddenly I felt the ring of fire and my husband told me that I could see his head and he encouraged me to keep going, but he also confessed that he was worried that our son could fall into the toilet when he left (hahaha).”
“Then I asked her to help me because I wanted to stand up to receive it .” My husband looked at me like I was crazy, but he helped me up. I stood up and leaned on the towel rack and let my body give it. last push.”
“My husband was in shock, shooting pictures, I’ve never felt so powerful in my life, our bodies really are incredible!” I lit the placenta about 20 minutes later, our son weighed 4 kilograms and 226 grams, measured 60 centimeters and the perimeter of his head was 36 cm. He was not a baby like the average one because my husband is very tall (almost 1,85cm) ”
Marissa confessed to Pop Sugar that the experience left her very exhausted, but that made her feel powerful: “I trusted my body and he did what many people forget he can do“.