You may have been with the wrong person, in the wrong relationship or at the wrong time. You may have given everything for a bond that you thought would be eternal and abandoned you. You may have entrusted your life and promised that you would be there whatever happened and that you have failed.
In the course of the relationship you may have realized that it was not your time to be with anyone or to be the person the other person needed by your side. You may have seen, impotently, how your heart was broken into a thousand pieces. Or maybe you just got tired of all that. Anyway, I want you to know something: in love there are never mistakes.
The person you fell in love with, the one who disappointed you, the one who cheated on you, the one who lied to you, the one who left you… Those people did not come to your life by mistake, but they were a blessing and a lesson for the future. If you had not known these people, if you had not wanted them, if you had not trusted them, you would not have known the pain of the breakup and the loss of the loved one. You would not be as strong as now.
Without the bond and complicity that ended up disappearing, you would not be able to recognize real love when the time came and you would not be able to distinguish between simple love and commitment. You would not know who you are or what you deserve.
If you had not met those people, if you had not wanted them, if you had not trusted them, you would not be as strong as they are now.
That someone broke their promise? So you learned to be careful and share your heart only with that special person who is with you in good times and bad.
What did you leave someone because it was not your time? That taught you what you really needed, the person you could become when your time came and the ability you have to hurt your loved ones, which is why you should always act with care.
Did you have to heal the wounds of the heart? The pain showed you your resilience, your strength and your capacity to forgive and to open up to others. Without that broken heart, you would be an innocent and foolish person. Without that broken heart, you could not perceive how beautiful true love is when it crosses your path.
In love there are never mistakes, only moments in which you learn, mature and you get back together.
Each break in the road teaches you something, shows you how love can be, shows you what you deserve and shows you that you should not be conformist with your heart. It is very easy to think that our failed relationships have been a waste of time. We believe that because we have been with the wrong person we have made a huge mistake.
But in love there are no mistakes.
You cannot live repentant, wanting to hit the rewind button to go back, start from scratch and “untie” that person.
You let someone enter your life, you loved, you gave your heart and you were happy for a while. That cannot be a mistake, regardless of how it ended.
You cannot live repentant, wanting to hit the rewind button to go back, start from scratch and “untie” that person. Every kiss, every date and every relationship you’ve been in has had a purpose, although in the end it would end in nothing.
You matured with a different person, you strengthened your heart and cared about someone else besides you, and that is something precious, whatever happened at the end.
In love there are no mistakes. Only links that failed, people that were not right for you and relationships that did not work. But that does not mean we should feel defeated.
You opened up, you let someone enter your life and you became vulnerable. That is the most courageous and incredible thing you can do. Do not regret having loved like that.
Do not look back wanting to change pieces of your past or erase phases of your life, because time is never lost when you dedicate it to love.
Every time you opened up to others and every time you decided to be an authentic, fragile and sentimental person with another person is a victory. You gained knowledge, kindness, passion and a sense of identity.
And that is never a mistake.