The Christmas is a time of reunion, love and joy. This time however, can become a nightmare when all we are causing to quebraderos head.
We all know someone who suffers something similar to fits of anxiety and hysteria every time the holidays approach, or the typical person who hates Christmas with all his strength resembling the popular figure of El Grinch.
But as much as one jokes, a study has shown that 2 out of 5 Spaniards suffer phobias at Christmas and New Year’s Eve parties.
According to the data of the Coaching Club, a pioneer center in group and personal therapies, in the last two years the number of patients who attend specialists for Christmas disorders has increased by 25%. These are based mainly on the eruption of a large cluster of conflicting feelings and emotional burdens that have been enduring throughout the year, such as stress, eating disorders, economic problems or directly, the family. Christmas is the straw that fills the glass of hundreds of people.
Verónica Rodríguez, director of Coaching Club explains: “although the Christmas holidays are usually positively emotive, since they entail celebrations, longed for encounters, excitement and distension; On occasion, this end-of-cycle brooch takes us to an inevitable evaluative analysis of the time elapsed and, as a consequence, to a certain emotional instability in the form of anxiety, frustration or sadness motivated by personal dissatisfaction with unfulfilled objectives.”
The four commandments of the Christmas upheaval
The phobias are irrational or disproportionate fears that invade the mind human and bodily externalized, so they have a high somatic component. The month of December and part of January become a litmus test for those who suffer these disturbances.
Among the most common symptoms, there are four main disorders to catalog the Christmas phobia. These are: social aversion, stress and self-demand, sudden sadness and compulsive shopping.
The first of these, social aversion, is marked, above all, by the massive family, business and social gatherings that fill the agenda in a few days and leave our weaknesses, dreams and frustrations uncovered. Therefore, specialists recommend working on the management of emotions and self-esteem.
“As the end of the year approaches and I take stock of it, I see an increase in dissatisfaction and stress when I realize that not only have I not achieved the goals I set for myself, but I have the feeling that I never get my goals objectives”, comments one of the patients of the center, about the self-demand that suffers. This stress can be somatized generating feelings of anxiety, negativity, bad mood, eating problems and sleep disorders.
When the stress indexes get worse, they lead to the third component, sudden sadness events. Depressive states are maximized and give way to fears. Experiences such as a close death, traumas and family discussions crop up these days.
And finally, the commitment to give to each and every one of our loved ones. Christmas has the perfect setting for compulsive shopping: shopping centers with lights and music, eye-catching shop windows and promotions and discounts as a hook.
The uncontrolled exposure to so many advertising strategies, the excessive self-demand when establishing objectives and the low self-esteem when these are frustrated can produce an unparalleled stress and an irreparable anguish when confronting what a normal human being can achieve and what this feeling generalized euphoria tax is intended to be achieved.