You may think that the person who is always late to the office or to an appointment is simply rude. Well, his problem has more to do with psychology than with his manners. Or at least that’s what science says.
Nobody likes to wait but it is quite common that in the group of friends there are always two types of people: those who wait and those who are delayed.
The unpunctuality is very badly seen in Western culture, especially in the workplace, but scientists say that those who arrive chronically late do not do it because they bother or voluntarily: they may have a problem.
A simple and novel trick for you to overcome your tendency to leave everything for later
Some researchers believe that coming sooner or later is more a psychological behavior that has its origin in some part of the brain but also, according to some experts, denotes some features of your personality.
In a recent interview with the BBC, the social psychologist and British author Oliver Burkman said that those who are late are controlling people.
“They want to be in control of the situation being the center of attention when they arrive,” he said.
According to Burkman, “far from being a sign of arrogance and despotism, despite the fact that there are people accustomed from childhood to doing their will, we must be more empathetic”.
“There is something touching in that they have that need to monopolize the attention and they do not feel well with themselves if they do not receive it”, affirmed.
Other scientific studies cite different reasons: the fallacy of planning.
An investigation by the Department of Sociology of the University of San Diego (United States) establishes that people who are always late are too optimistic with the time available to perform a task.
In this sense, Dr. Diana DeLonzor, an expert in time management on what she has written several books, told The New York Times that there are two types of people who are always late.
- Those who rush the deadline: those who like the adrenaline of leaving everything for the last moment.
- The “producers”: the optimists who believe that they can do much more than what time gives them.
Delonzor believes that latecomers also have certain traits: they are positiv or s and creativ years but little realistic.
The punctual ones
For DeLonzor, individuals who always arrive at the time simply have more self-control than others and a better perception of time, according to their research.
“They are more cautious and often imagine the worst scenarios, so they need enough time to solve problems that may arise.”
He also assured that they tend to procrastinate less. This is: not to postpone things.
In his conversation with the BBC, psychologist Oliver Burkman also points out some negative traits of being overly punctual.
“Sometimes, arriving very early denotes excessive concern and a willingness to want to please others.”
Burkman recalls that people who arrive too early to a meeting are often angry about waiting too long but invited “not to blame others for arriving half an hour earlier than agreed.”
Experts in human resources agree that punctuality is an important factor in the world of work and costs money to companies although some studies on productivity speak of the benefits of companies being more flexible.
4 tips to be timelier
But if being late worries you or is tired of being scolded at work or in your group of friends, here are 4 simple steps of Dr. Delonzor to at least try to be punctual.
- Plan a strategy: propose to work on a task a little every day.
- Calculate the time your activities take you: this way you will be more realistic with the time you spend doing them.
- Arrive before, not on time: if you plan to arrive at the right time, you will probably be late, so try to arrive in advance.
- Enjoy waiting: not so bad, take a magazine or a book and read. Or simply think and reflect.